Dear President Donald J. Trump,
When I began to think about what I’d write in this letter, I paused briefly. Although I am an honest, outspoken person when it comes to political issues, sharing personal parts of my life makes me a bit nervous. However, due primarily to the “honest” part of that former statement I believe it is important that I begin this correspondence with an exit out of a closet. I am obviously female, no closet needed there. However, my status in other aspects of my personal life do have a clear bearing on what I am about to share with you. I am bisexual and I am also disabled. I am a bisexual, disabled female. This puts me in a scary position as your term in office begins. I am frightened about the changes that may come about in the next four years. I am also, or at least I attempt to be, a realist. Only so many changes can occur within that four-year term that a leader has. I realize that each time a President takes office people all over the United States get upset about changes that will occur.
The fact is that the things that one person begins to put into practice while in the Presidential seat do not fully take hold within one term. In addition, the social changes that have taken hold within our country have often occurred over numerous Presidential terms. For example: when I think about major social changes in our country, many names, including Al Gore, immediately come to mind. Former Vice President Gore, while still a Senator in 1989, stated that, “Humankind has suddenly entered into a brand-new relationship with the planet Earth. The world’s forests are being destroyed; an enormous hole is opening in the ozone layer. Living species are dying at an unprecedented rate.” I grew up believing that Al Gore was leading the charge forward to save the earth. Please don’t misunderstand me. Mr. Gore is an amazing and staunch advocate in the battle for the environment. However, the steps towards altering the manner America dealt with environmental issues didn’t begin with one person. For example, The Clean Water act occurred under the Presidency of George H. W. Bush. The changes that have come about, socially speaking, have indeed come about over many Presidencies.
When traced back, often when citizens have cried out for those changes a leader with the same passionate views on the subject has come forth and championed the changes that occurred. Martin Luther King Jr, for example, championed the quest for equality, which in a manner of speaking has gone down in history. He wasn’t the first to speak up, but he did so loudly and proudly, putting himself (and his own family) in danger in an effort to alter the social status. When he did so, quite bravely, many of his fellow United States citizens disagreed with him. Some saw him as a trouble-maker, creating waves for no good reason. Some believed that he was asking for rights and freedoms beyond what was necessary or even deserved. That’s the most important point I’d like to get across to you, Mr. President. What many people conceive of as normality, of living within their own personal comfort zone, is often very binding for the individuals who they live side by side with. Essentially, my normal is very different from your normal. This doesn’t make either of us necessarily right or wrong. We are just different, and as you step into the Oval Office as the new leader of our Nation, I implore you to remember that it is the differences that Americans have that makes this nation so amazing and powerful. I have hope. You give me hope. Your inauguration speech was well-written and resonated with me. In many ways, it was about me, about all of us, as you repeated many times. However, the fear still lingers. In that speech, you spoke directly to American citizens, saying that, “Your voice, your hopes and your dreams will define our American destiny.” This statement is so beautiful. So, I’d like to offer my voice as an American. My hope is that the positive social changes that have occurred in our beautiful Nation, giving so many people the freedoms that they deserve, continues to flourish, even though some do not believe that equality is necessary or important. I dream of a day where I won’t be judged based on my gender, sexual orientation, or physical disability. As the new leader of our great nation, you are in the position to support those hopes and dreams.
I realize, of course, that social growth has not occurred solely by the actions of individuals such as Dr. King and Mr. Gore. However, their strength gave others the strength to stand up and speak out loudly and proudly for what they believed was right. The biggest fear that I have as a bisexual and disabled female in America right now is what we will see from the election of a leader who has shown so much disrespect for individuals like myself. I do not want people to believe that I would ever consent to someone grabbing me inappropriately. I do not want to feel belittled because I have a disability. From my perspective, being a minority of any kind in the United States is a bit scary right now. Meryl Streep may have spoken up on the subject at the awards show but I assure you that she’s not the only person who feels that way. You are the leader. A leader holding the most powerful office on the face of this planet. Please, I call on you to remember that all Americans are now your responsibility, even those who didn’t vote you into office. Every, single American citizen.
The fight for equality for individuals with handicaps has been a long one, from the creation of the American Federation of the Physically Handicapped in 1940, all of the way to the most recent addition in 2016 to the rules of the American Bar Association, in which comments or actions are forbidden if they single out a person based upon that disability. Women also fought long and hard for equality. From the Declaration of Sentiments signing in 1848 all the way to the Lily Ledbetter Fair Pay Restoration Act in 2009. The same plight for positive social change is currently occurring for the LGBT community. In 1970, two students from the University of Minnesota applied for a marriage license. The application was denied. Years later, in 1983, Karen Thomson’s fight for marital equality began when her lover Sharon was hit by a drunk driver. She spent the next eight years fighting for the ability to gain legal guardianship of the person she loved so she could take care of them. Just last year the Supreme Court finally legalized gay marriage in all fifty states. The fight for equality was a long one, but when it finally arrived people all over the Unites States gained a precious freedom. A freedom allowing them to marry the person they loved, regardless of their sexual orientation.
Not every American will agree with the social changes that have occurred. Not everyone will agree with the trajectory America’s history has taken and I understand that fully. However, no matter the gender of the citizen, the physical limitation of the citizen, or the sexual orientation of the citizen, you will be their voice. You will work for them. Your choice now, as I see it, is to either fight for the people you represent, or fight against them. On this subject, I am worried. Would you consider me less of a person based upon my gender, physical handicap or sexual orientation? I certainly hope not, and am hoping for the best. You will be my President now. The leader of our great country. Therefore, even though I disagree with you on some of your beliefs and points, I will respect you. I ask the same in return. Forge forward with efforts to bring the people of this great nation together. You will be the voice and representative of all Americans. Every man, woman, and child, no matter their sexual orientation or physical capabilities, we all deserve your respect.
My daughter has asked me if I am scared. She said, “Mom, you are three of the four or five things that our President has made fun of or spoken out against.” She’s asked how I will handle this fact in my writing. Will I alter who I am to fit in? No. Will I hush my voice on issues I deem important for social growth in the county? No. I will not stop. I will not falter. I stand upon the backs and learn from the battles fought by those who sought positive change in generations before me. Giants all. We have been blessed by amazing socially-active people who have come before us in the United States. I will go forth and speak loudly and proudly about what I believe is right for this country. While I do so, I’d like to make a request of those individuals who disagree with me: Please, continue to disagree and speak just as loudly as I do. However, just because we disagree the need for civility remains. Changes occur within our history books the way a baby is born. We yell. We scream. We sweat, we fight. We are in pain before the changes occur.
One leader alone can rarely institute monumental changes in our great Nation. However, they can set the tone. It’s entirely possible that Susan B. Anthony, Karen Thompson, and President Franklin Delano Roosevelt all sat on the edge of their beds each night shaking their heads and muttering angry words while they went over especially difficult days they had endured. They did not, however, regularly attack those who disagreed with them. They did not repeatedly belittle those who believed, lived and loved differently than they did. They sought to uplift, teach and share their vision of a better tomorrow. With the utmost respect to you, President elect Trump, you will be working for all of us now. None of us should be belittled.
Sincerely,
