Talking about what might’ve been and thinking about what used to be only goes so far. Certainly not one opposed to reminiscing, I was wracked with grief over the comments of yesteryear by largely isolated voices that nonetheless were well-positioned within an American minority group near and dear to both my heart and my roots. For those who know me, it goes without saying the sort of family I was raised in and the type of people I’ve associated with (even during rougher times in my life) thoroughly underline my long-standing friendships with members of the black community and my ongoing cultural appreciation for all that my neighbors from said community have brought into my life’s experience.
I regret that I let a few misguided voices influence me by saying things like, “Martin Luther King Day isn’t yours to celebrate.” I won’t be drawn into some bizarre dispute by brazen attempts at race-baiting which are not only off-base but, in all honesty, saddening.
Here’s what I’m not going to do: I’m not going to talk about how my parents raised me to treat everyone this or that way and be colorblind in my approach to people, and I’m not going to unnecessarily attempt to further “defend” my record by citing all of the momentous occasions during which I’ve had true fellowship with the black Americans I grew up embracing as one of us (fellow Americans). Furthermore, I’m not going to reference my friends within the community in a “Oh, they can tell you that…” way.
The truth is, I don’t have to. Again, those who know me are keenly aware of my “record” and those who don’t know me yet are predisposed to scrutinize what should be apparent from my published (editorial and multimedia) work aren’t going to be convinced regardless. Furthermore, no matter what I put down here concerning my thoughts on my friendships, experiences and history with the black community will be labeled pandering, “White Guilt”, tone deaf, et cetera, and we know what was written millennia ago about those “who have ears to hear…”
So, if you’re one (regardless of ethnic background) who believes that despite Caucasians being a global minority that we’re all born bigots, then you’re not going to have any patience for my being proud of my European heritage. That last statement has you confirming all you think you need to know about me and “my kind,” and, well, you know where the proverbial door is. Feel free to stop reading now. Go trifle somewhere else.
For the vast majority of Americans, whether of black, white, Hispanic, Native American or whatever derivation you strengthen the greater whole hailing from, you didn’t read my appreciating my own heritage as being a racist attending (or hosting) secret meetings preaching the virtues of genocide. You see that I’m willing to have a genuine conversation about something I’m sorry I didn’t address before now: Black History Month. You also see that I openly recognize that while I can (and do) sympathize with my fellow Americans, my fellow man, I also know that there are some things (both blessings and instances of suffering) that no amount of research, be it academic or anecdotal, will allow me to truly understand. That’s the truth be it where someone else is coming from, where they’ve been, how they feel, how they’re treated differently, how desperately they wish things were different, et al.
To those of you who “get” what I’m talking about here, please, by all means, let’s continue. As much as I don’t deem the under-40 crowd of Americans as capable of winning World War II or being ready to assume the proverbial mantle of power in our nation, none of that matters given the simple fact that we are about to assume said mantle.
Life isn’t fair. It’s a zero-sum game. As much as I’ve waxed eloquent in my studies, my editorial ramblings and elaborated upon during episodes of the ModState podcast, no amount of pleading will convince the vast majority of my fellow aspiring entrepreneurs and business types to see the world, their enterprise or their fellow man in the egalitarian manner I do. In my mind, what good does it do me to conquer the world and lose my own soul? You can’t take it with you; once my time is up, whenever that occurs, the dollars, the battles, this that and the other won’t matter so much. My investment (on all accounts, in terms of personal energy, time and, yes, my fiscal resources) in my fellow man is paramount. What good is any great struggle won if I didn’t love my neighbor? What good is any of that if I didn’t live the love I said I had?
It wouldn’t be worth printing, burning and then forgetting about. My words would be worthless.
Before I bore everyone to tears, I’m going to go ahead and admit I don’t know how to perfectly craft my entry into a modern racial discussion due to the increasingly hostile dynamics in our culture, and I don’t have a perfect framework to let me be all things to all people. Therefore, I’ll try to do neither.
I intend to conclude this article with examples, instances (or whatever other label is more apropos for the reader) of the kinship I have with my fellow man from the black community, of the affinity that I have for them amongst my neighbors to this day. It’s an imperfect formula, but I’ve yet to see a flawless path to discussing something this sensitive.
I get it. No, I’m not going to be caught dead saying I’m “woke” because I simply do not see that deliberately using poor grammar is the way for me to show how enlightened I am.
But I do get it.
Election Day 2008, I spent the entire period (after I went and voted for the Libertarian candidate, former U.S. Representative Bob Barr) with friends of mine from the black community in Hattiesburg, Mississippi. Past Edwards, drifting over to Palmer’s Crossing, to “The Field” for an “Old Gold” (Old English) and a bonfire before concluding the historic occasion watching President-elect Barack Obama’s acceptance speech amidst a surreal environment. The roar of crowds across America, Hell, worldwide, at what happened was unforgettable, to be sure, but that’s not what I mean.
There I was, sitting at a table in the nearly exact middle of hip-hop and R&B club, “The High Hat 2000,” knowing full well that this was one of those moments in one’s life where you know you won’t pass that way again. Sure, I could (and did) go back to that nightclub, I could (and did) spend the day with my friends from the neighborhood juxtaposed to my own, and so on. But being there, not amongst the authors of the cause of the day but certainly being aware of the stakes and of the boundless reasons for celebration by the black community.
My sister and I had a conversation in the days following that historic Election Day in 2008, and we both agreed: had we grown up where those of European descent were the vast minority in both numbers and in the value placed upon us by the majority culture for over two-hundred years, if he (or she) was qualified for the job then, yes, we both agreed we would say it was time for a leader to be elected from amongst our own ethnicity or race (depending upon the circumstances of this scenario).
I also get the duplicity with which the line is uttered, “well his [Barack Obama’s] mother is white, so he’s just as much white as he is black.” While technically true, there’s something called the “One Drop Theory” that’s more or less a sociological paradox. To be sure, any significant percentage of African heritage tends to result in the black community claiming said “brother” or “sister” as “one of us.” But on the other hand, let’s not get it twisted: the white community, the Caucasians, we “European Americans”? Oh, rest assured, we know who’s white. So, yeah, that door swings both ways and…
…again, I get it.
But I also get there remain friendships in my life with my friends from the black community that are irreplaceable. One such friendship is with someone who rode with me to community college many days for a whole academic year. Fact is, he’d’ve done the same for me and endeared himself to my family to the degree that my mother said that he was undoubtedly someone I should never willingly let leave my life. Better still, in late 2010, he was my friend who showed up at my door and convinced me to go ahead and wrap up my paperwork and enlist. He’d recently joined the Army and so I went ahead and joined the Navy. Events and the nuances of our varying paths of service took us different places with unique stories, but recent calls from my original stomping ground of New Orleans to his residence in Jacksonville have rung true just how deep our bond was and remains.
It has been a long seven-plus years since he gave me that final push to join, but looking back another seven years to when we met in 2003 at Jones County Junior College (yes, that Jones, “The Free State of Jones), I’m sorry my book won’t do the narrative in-between then and now. A decade and a half can make putting a cohesive story together tough, but he’ll get the picture: we’ve both grown, yet the song remains the same.
It’s of little value to go on ad nauseam about my affinity (after twenty-ish years of playing piano and my eventual obsession with blues and Motown R&B). If I don’t get voted into exile from Earth for this outrage I’m writing, maybe I’ll do a part two on the black community and me.
Because, why not? If this seems a painstaking effort and a bit awkward coming out of the wash, maybe that’s because it is.
New Orleans, nigh to celebrating its tricentennial, is far from perfect. But “Las Vegas South” it is not; we know how to party. Being born in and returning to New Orleans after my five-year stint in the Navy, this is a metropolitan area where, if you can’t tolerate being in the immediate vicinity with a wide cross-section of different groups of people, I’ve known since I was “knee-high to a chicken” (as Stevie Wonder sang in ‘I Was Made to Love Her’) the party isn’t a really fun place for any of us to be at unless isn’t a place that’s really fun for all of us to be at.
However awkward and discombobulated my rambling is at this point, what is clear to me is the value in steering clear of those who, regardless of their background, can’t acknowledge that these are not easy topics to address. I’m sure there’s any number of ways I’ve disappointed my dear reader by failing to smoothly transition through the climate I find myself uniquely positioned in. Everyone’s joy and pain is unique, their position, their stratus, their struggle, their rapport with their fellow man, it’s all unique to their person. I am no expert on the way forward here. But I do promise to continue in the same spirit as this article: with an open mind ready to listen to solutions based in fashioning a better America today and tomorrow, not bogged down in the universal angst of the past.
The past’ll make you sick, and it leads nowhere. I’ll continue to be real, not always right, not always wrong, but transparent, upfront and determined to make things better to the extent I am able for those the sovereign God (in whom “…we trust”) has brought into my life’s journey.
Well over a decade ago, I met with Hattiesburg’s then-mayor Johnny DuPree (D-MS) on four separate occasions in his office. The first time, the city’s administrative individuals attempted to send me away, citing the mayor’s schedule (which I am certain was intense, in all seriousness). Overhearing the dialogue outside his office proper, Mr. DuPree emerged and invited me inside. Now and again I would stop by to offer words of encouragement, and to discuss matters of sociopolitical relevance to the Gulf South region. A year or so after my late 2010 enlistment in the US Navy, my mother was out and about in South Mississippi and saw Mayor DuPree at a downtown civic function, and she went across the room to speak to him and thank him for attending. When she began to introduce herself, the mayor smiled and graciously interrupted, “Oh, I remember you: you’re Jonathan DeViney’s mother.”
I’m sure some folks could try, so I’d love to hear the arguments made about how this sort of discourse couldn’t/shouldn’t/wouldn’t happen between a white kid in his late high school and early college years and a black mayor of a Gulf South town.
But it did.
And, for future reference, Dr. King is someone for me to celebrate and embrace, and I do. Was he perfect? Oh, well on that note, when are our icons perfect? Only in the reruns.
As an enlisted team lead while stationed at Walter Reed, I agreed that the black Sailors on duty the day Dr. King’s monument was unveiled in DC should’ve been granted “special liberty” (military-speak for time off without taking earned leave) to attend the ceremony. Our chief was not in the mood to give my urgings any significant weight, but that’s besides the point: I saw the value in it and made the effort.
Dr. King embodied the value of strength under reserve, of realizing the ability to violently reinforce one’s point of view didn’t mean you should. Similarly, Rosa Parks showed incredible restraint by merely remaining seated and not punching the imbecile harassing her in the throat. Senator Edward Brooke (R-MA) [Edward William Brooke III] stood by both his party and his convictions throughout the years. Perhaps a topic for next time, if I’m permitted that latitude, is how very near Senator Brooke came to being Vice President when Spiro Agnew (R-MD) resigned on 10 October, 1973.
My point?
If you’re still with me, consider what would’ve happened, then, when Richard Nixon (R-CA) resigned on 09 August, 1974.
Why not? It’s a far better fiction to dwell on than the nightly news.